The most successful people never gossip.
Possibly you’ve stopped paying attention. Or
possibly you’ve fallen into bad habits . Or possibly
you’ve grown complacent.
Whatever the reasons, you’re now compromising,
settling, or flying on unhappy autopilot.
Remarkably successful people don’t compromise
on their standards. They don’t settle for less than
what they hope to achieve. And they definitely
don’t put their lives on autopilot. They believe
success only comes from intention and action —
and so they live that way.
Here are nine things remarkably successful people
1. They never let the past dictate their future.
We all have limitations. We all have challenges.
We all make mistakes. The key is to not be
constrained by those things but to learn from
Easier said than done? It all depends on your
perspective. Take mistakes: When something
goes wrong, turn it into an opportunity to learn
something you didn’t know — especially about
yourself. (And when something goes wrong for
someone else, turn it into an opportunity to be
gracious and forgiving
Where you’ve been, what you’ve done —
everything in the past is just training.
Remarkably successful people believe their past
should inform them but should never define them.
2. They never gossip.
It’s hard to resist the inside scoop. Finding out
the reasons behind someone’s decisions, the
motivations behind someone’s actions, the skinny
behind someone’s hidden agenda — much less
whether Hugo is really dating Jeanette in
accounting — those conversations are hard to
Unfortunately, the person who gossips about
other people is also gossiping about you. And
suddenly gossip isn’t so much fun.
The next time you’re tempted to talk about
another person, think about whether you would
say what you’re about to say to that person.
And the next time someone starts to talk about
someone else, excuse yourself and walk away.
Don’t worry that you’ll lose a gossiper’s respect;
anyone willing to gossip doesn’t respect other
When remarkably successful people want to share
the inside scoop, they just speak openly about
their own thoughts and feelings. That way they’re
not gossiping. They’re just being genuine.
3. They never say “yes” when they really mean
Refusing a request from colleagues, customers, or
even friends is really hard. But rarely does saying
no go over as badly as you expect. Most people
will understand, and if they don’t, should you care
too much about what they think?
When you say no, you only feel bad for a few
moments. When you agree to something you
really don’t want to do, you may feel bad for a
long time — or at least as long as it takes you to
do what you didn’t want to do in the first place.
Remarkably successful people practice saying no.
They’ve gotten really good at saying no. They
know that lets them focus on doing what they
really need to do: for themselves and for other
4. They never interrupt.
When you interrupt someone, what you’re really
saying is, “I’m not thinking about what you are
saying. I’m thinking about what I want to say …
and what I want to say is so important you need
to hear it now .”
Want better professional relationships? Want
better personal relationships? Listen, truly listen,
to what other people say. Then ask questions to
make sure you understand.
Remarkably successful people already know what
they think — they want to learn from what
everyone else thinks.
Successful people make it a priority to be on
5. They’re never late (without an incredibly good
I know. You’re overwhelmed. So you’re always
running behind. It stresses you out like crazy.
And it makes other people resent you like crazy.
Whenever you’re late, other people rightly assume
you feel your time is more important than theirs.
(Which, of course, kills your chance of building an
outstanding personal or professional relationship
Although you may believe you can’t help it, being
late is a choice. You allow yourself to be late.
Remarkably successful people start the day a
little day earlier. They arrive early to their first
scheduled event. They don’t worry that they’ll
waste time — they plan ahead and bring along
whatever they need to use any “early” time to get
a few simple things done.
Then they feel a lot less stressed and as a result
are more insightful, more creative, more decisive,
and simply more “on” in everything they do.
6. They never resent.
Take it from Nelson Mandela: “Resentment is like
drinking poison and then hoping it will kill your
The same holds for bitterness. And jealousy. And
When you hold on to ill will, the only person who
loses is you.
Remarkably successful people put all that
emotional energy into focusing not on what others
have done but on what they themselves will do.
7. They never decide they don’t have the time.
Everyone knows someone who just seems to get
a lot more done than other people. It’s the
craziest thing. How do these folks do it? They
must have no life, right?
Actually they have a great life: They’ve figured
out what is important to them and they’re
making it happen.
Figure out what’s important to you. Strip away
all the stuff that isn’t. Then make it happen.
We’re all given the same amount of time. The
only difference is how we use our time.
Remarkably successful people use their time.
8. They never fit in (just to fit in).
Though entire industries are based on making us
think otherwise, no one actually likes us for the
clothes we wear, the car we drive, or the house
we live in. No one likes us for our titles, either.
Those are all “things,” and while other people
may in fact like our “things,” that doesn’t mean
they like you. (And even if they do, that doesn’t
mean you like yourself.)
Remarkably successful people have decided to
simply be who they are. By not trying to fit in or
make an artificial impression they know they
might lose a bunch of acquaintances, but they
know they’ll also gain a few real friends.
9. They’re never afraid to do the things that
“The only thing we have to fear is fear itself,” is
true, but in some ways a better quote might be,
“The only thing we have to fear is ourselves.”
Why? We’re all afraid. We’re scared of what might
or might not happen. We’re scared of what we
can’t change. We’re scared of what we won’t be
able to do. We’re scared of how others might
And that makes us hesitate, wait for the right
moment, decide we need to think a little longer or
do some more research or explore a few more
alternatives, and days, weeks, months, and even
years pass us by.
And so do our dreams.
Don’t let your fears hold you back. Whatever
you’ve been planning, whatever you’ve imagined,
whatever you’ve dreamed of, get started on it
today. If you want to start a business, take the
first step. If you want to change careers, take the
first step. If you want to expand or enter a new
market or design new products or services, take
the first step.
Remarkably successful people put their fears
aside and get started. They do something. They
do anything .
Remarkably successful people are often afraid,
but they’re most afraid of looking back and
thinking, “If only I had …”
Don’t look back and think, “If only I had …”
This article originally appeared at Inc. . Copyright
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